Cremation has become a popular option in preparing the human body before burial. It is the process of burning and drying up the dead body into mineral fragments that look like ground dry bones. Despite its popularity and practicality, there is still the element of grief that affects the way it is perceived and the way it is practiced in certain cultures and countries.
Why cremation is a positive option
• Memory’s sake.
When a loved one departs, inevitably, grief engulfs his loved ones. People deal with grief in different ways. On one hand, some people hold on to the dead person’s presence by holding days of wake. The wake in itself serves as a way of comforting the bereaved family and friends. On the other hand, some families don’t want to remember their loved one as dead especially when they die in accidents. Most families would opt for immediate cremation. This is also one way of dealing with grief – keeping no photos or records of the person’s dead body.
The remains of a cremated body can somehow be transported and kept for some time. Instead of burying the dead in one place, the family members can keep the “ashes” in their homes to keep their memories alive somehow. Eventually, when they have dealt with the intensity of grief, they can finally literally bury the dead.
• Sanitary purposes.
Keeping a dead body for a long time may cause some health issues especially if the person died of a contagious illness. Cremation is an effective way of eliminating the viruses and bacteria that come with disease and decomposition. In this way, the remains can be kept with the family for a longer period of time before it is finally buried.
• Practical reasons.
First, cremating is quick and sanitary though it may have a huge impact on the feelings of other members of the family. Second, you would not want to keep the image of your loved one in unpleasant form especially if they die out of accidents or chronic deadly diseases that deform their bodies and faces. For sure, the dead himself would not be happy to let the public see him in that way. Finally, when members of the family are scattered in different places or even countries, the best way to keep the remains until the loved ones arrive to give their final respects would be in this form.
What to consider when opting for cremation
• Feelings of family members.
It is important that family members agree in the procedure to avoid discomfort or resistance. Proper understanding of the procedure should be made as a way of respecting the feelings of the bereaved. Another way of precluding this conflict with family’s discomfort would be for the person himself to give his preferences before his death. Both the dead and his loved ones will be at peace knowing that they have dealt with the issue even before it occurred.
• Funeral services.
The funeral services are actually held to comfort the family and friends of the dead. However, this can cause unnecessary expenses and inconvenience to the ones who host it. Time and health are affected; thus, friends and loved ones can pay their respects for a while or when they can with less fuss. The remains can also be transported and kept by different members of the family before its final burial.
• Proper information about the procedure.
The family and friends must be informed that the procedure of cremating the dead body adheres to proper handling and respect of the dead. In this way, any myths and misconceptions would be eradicated and the family will be comforted.
• Scattering the remains.
If the remains have to be scattered, the feelings of the family members should also be considered. Holding on to the last connection to the dead person is one way of dealing with grief. Careful consultation and agreement among members should be made when doing this.